Chester County Docket#’s: CP-15-CR-0001624-2019, CP-15-MD-0001702-2019, and 2018-13454-PF
I ask that you, your Honor, give Tim the maximum punishment for
what he did to me and the children. He cannot have guns, ammunition, weapons, or explosive materials and devices due to his criminal background and mental state. The VA listed Traumatic Brain Injury and PTSD as the main reasons for his 100% Permanent and Total disability rating. I want Tim to have these felony charges on his permanent record so that not only am I protected, but also my children and all those around me are protected. We need to keep our community safe from his violent outbursts. The public and all of our governing agencies need to be aware of his violent behavior and actions.
The children were traumatized and unsettled for many months after Tim was taken away by the police the night of December 29th. Slowly they’re finding peace in their lives. My son started therapy immediately after the incident but stopped after a few weeks by his own decision. He’s still angry with me at times but has started to slowly forgive me and show me respect and love. He blames me for bringing such a toxic person into our family.
My daughter is glad Tim is gone for good; as is her brother. The baby has no idea who her father is since he never really cared for her while he lived here and she was just an infant when he left. Kit will occasionally ask for Daddy but quickly shifts her attention after a few minutes. Sometimes she calls her uncle or grandfather (my brother and father) daddy.
The paranoia that he’s stalking me and going to put a bullet in my head or blow me up still stays with me every single day. I would love to live my life without the fear of him popping up and squeezing the life out of my body. I want to return to a happy life and so far I’m getting back to something of a normal existence. I still will not go to church for fear he’ll show up and we end up casualties in a mass shooting by him. I don’t want to be the one responsible for bringing such evil into other’s lives.
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| The FBI and bomb squad came to investigate my house because of Tim's explosives. They claimed there was just enough to pass under the legal limit in Pennsylvania. In the event Tim kills me, please use my case as a way to push legislation through our government to protect the innocent from violent predators like Tim. |
It’s a sad fact that he still has easy access to guns and ammunition since he’s living with his father who owns them and sleeps with a loaded revolver called “the Judge” under his pillow every night.
Currently, Tim will not move forward on our divorce therefore we're still married. I filed the paperwork but in this state it can sit an entire year or two before it’s considered final. Tim could collect my life insurance if I die.
I don’t have any backup when the children are ill. I am the only one who can care for the sick child therefore I miss work and any meetings or appointments. I no longer have any financial help with child care costs. Even though there’s a support order in place, Tim doesn’t consistently pay his share of the expenses for the girls. I have to rely on charity for help with their daycare so I can work full time in the office.
The townhouse went into foreclosure. My credit score got hit hard and lost 400 points. I’m not able to rent or finance anything. If I lose my house, I will have to find an alternative living arrangement. The divorce isn’t finalized because Tim won’t sign the paperwork and his name is also on the deed with mine. However, I’m on the mortgage alone so I’m bearing the financial burden. I am not able to sell or move into a new home or rental property. I’m not able to buy a car or open a credit card.
I truly believe Tim was (is) planning to kill me. In January of 2019, I found a receipt from the NRA for Spousal Accident Insurance. Tim added me to it without my knowledge. Luckily, after I called the NRA, they told me they no longer carry this type of insurance as of December 2018. He’d constantly use gaslighting techniques to persuade me into thinking I was losing my mind. I believe he was going to murder me and make it look like a suicide. He told people I was mentally unstable and a drug addict. These were all lies to be his alibi in the event he murdered me.
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| NRA Spousal Accident Insurance |
I almost lost my job because of his constant negative criticism. He robbed me of my confidence and self-esteem. Luckily, I was able to get myself back on track at work and strong enough to stand up for myself to him. This really angered him because he lost control over me.
He’d refer to my family as “you people” because we are not Catholic like “his people”. He would always make remarks about his Catholic family values yet he rarely went to church and wasn’t living an honest Christian life. He judged me and my family very harshly. He wouldn’t apologize for anything like spending thousands at the Casino but then stop by the food donation center for groceries to feed us and lie to them about not having money.
He’d pressure me into having sex with him to motivate him to complete his various construction projects around the house (like rebuilding an interior wall or tile the bathroom floor). If I didn’t have sex with him, he'd threaten to go out and find someone else to sleep with. I hated sleeping with him and would cry during and afterwards. He’d still come back and pressure me days later. I felt trapped and didn’t leave because I was afraid of being broke and homeless with four children. My family couldn’t take us in because they’re older and can’t handle all the children and noise.
He admitted to cheating on me with the neighbor; however, I’m not convinced that was the only time he cheated on me. I worry about any STD’s or AIDS he infected me with still (11 months later). I get tested again at the end of this month (August 2019) to be sure I’m clean. I’m too traumatized to even think about being with another person sexually.
Often his temper would spiral out of control and his rhetoric would get louder, meaner (more personal), and he start physically hitting or throwing things we cared about like an old family painting, grandfather clock, china, electronics, and/or anything of sentimental value.
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| He smashed all of my favorite china. |
When the Willistown Police Officers arrested Tim the evening of December 29th 2018 they took him out of my house to the Chester County Prison. This was the date my life, like a book, turned to another chapter. I didn’t realize it at the time because of the fear and adrenaline going through me. I’ve been going through years of abuse from him and this was normal for the police to be in the house with me crying, trying to console the children, and Tim enraged.
Tim starting showing serious signs of trouble back in the summer of 2017 when he started gambling a lot and doing cocaine and stealing prescription ADHD medication. He would stay awake for days then finally crash. He’d go into a long-depressive highly-irritable mental state (one week or more) and sleep for long hours (15+ hours). He’d constantly criticize me and my two older children. He’d call me names like fat-ass, incompetent, irresponsible, a poor decision maker, and special (sarcastically).
I had two prior emergency protection from abuse orders on him for fear of him killing me (Docket: 2017-10156-PF and Docket: 2018-06739-PF). The second PFA he said, “Stop pushing (as in: being head strong; not physically) me or I’ll f—cking kill you and my sister will get custody of the girls! You want to push my buttons? I’ll show you what happens when you push a marine. I will erase your head! Your parents will have to live with that.”
Both orders ended up getting thrown away because there wasn’t enough evidence to prove any physical abuse or threat of direct physical injury.
In this incident (Docket: 2018-13454-PF, CP-15-CR-0001624-2019 and CP-15-MD-0001702-2019), he was triggered by me turning off the light. It was about 9:30 pm and both our girls were up after me trying to put them to bed. The two-year-old was upstairs in her crib screaming. She was only crying for about 5 minutes. I was cradling my youngest, in my arms, 9 months old, downstairs by the couch to rock her to sleep. The lights were off to help calm her. Tim was yelling at me from the kitchen to get Kit from upstairs. He went up to get her.
A few minutes later, he walked into the room with the baby and me. He turned on the light and I walked over to turn it off. He was still standing close to the switch holding Kit on his right hip when I turned it off again. It was that moment he jabbed me with his index finger on my forehead. He was close enough and did it with such force that I almost fell backwards with the baby in my arms. I slapped him flat across the cheek with an open hand causing his glassed to fall off. He then lunged at me, grabbed my neck with his left hand, squeezed, and pushed me backwards, about four steps, into the couch. My back is on the couch with the baby on one side and Kit on the other; both girls crying hysterically. I kicked him in the groin. He then grabbed my neck with both hands, pushed me hard down into the couch and whispered, “Go ahead.”
When he let go, I grabbed Kit and immediately walked over to the table across the room to get my phone. I called 911 (12/29/2018, 9:38 pm) and we went upstairs into the hallway bathroom and I locked the door. While on the line with 911, I took pictures of Tim’s hand prints on my neck. They stayed on the line with me till the police came to the house. I spoke to the officers and first responders for a while. The medic assessed my neck injury and said I should be okay to stay home. I wasn’t going leave my children alone so I stayed. Tim was in the basement with a bunch of officers before they took him away.
I remembered the security camera in the room where Tim attacked me later on that night. I called 911 and got the arresting officer to come over and get the memory card with the footage of it all.
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| Tim's hand print on my neck. |
